Jewish Dating Conversation Tips

With SawYouAtSinai’s Jewish Dating services, you will find someone that you find attractive, has similar values to you, and has character traits that you appreciate. However, you will eventually have to go on a date, and make actual conversation over a plateful of food. For some this is the most exhilarating part of the dating process, for others, the thought of conversation produces nervousness and anxiety. By following these points, you can have fulfilling and satisfying conversations even with people who are little more than strangers right now.

• Stories- everyone loves to laugh or commiserate with a good story. Before you go on a date, think of a few things which happened to you or people you are familiar with. Make sure it isn’t too long though, or your date might get bored. With a little finesse and creativity, you can worm any story into a conversation topic that your companion chose. For instance, if you have a story about how you almost got bitten by the Fer- de- Lance on summer vacation, you can tell that story when your date mentions summer vacation, or frightening experiences, or even the room temperature (Well, this restaurant is nothing compared to the heat of the rain forest! As a matter of fact, last summer…)

• Questions- Though stories are fun to tell and listen to, your companion also wants a chance to talk about his or her life and personality. Ask your date engaging questions that will prompt him or her to explain themselves more fully and extend the topic in meaningful ways. These questions show that you are interested in what your date has to say and prevent you from simply monologuing like a movie villain about nothing but your own life. Make sure the questions are substantive- avoid dead-end questions which your date can answer in one word.

• Eye Contact- Though this may seem ridiculously obvious, it is very important to look straight at the person you are listening or talking to. Roving eyes can be interpreted as insulting disinterest and boredom. Try to keep your eyes on your date- unless you are driving! Always keep your eyes on the road.

Make sure to follow these tips, but more than anything at all, please relax! Despite all the hype, dating is just supposed to be a fun way for people to get to know each other, so enjoy yourself!